High Conflict Co-Parenting Online Certificate Course
Our High Conflict Co-Parenting Divorce Certificate Online Course is now available! Our course was created and is led by Dr. Justin D’Arienzo, Clinical and Forensic Psychologist, and Divorce Expert. The course is composed of 10 sections and takes approximately eight hours to complete. Each section is a video presentation followed by short exercises to complete. Once the videos are viewed and short exercises are completed, there is a brief quiz at the end. Once you have completed the quiz, a certificate will automatically be emailed to you.
Your Password will be automatically sent to you upon payment.
Your Certificate will be automatically sent to you showing you have completed an Eight Hour High Conflict Divorce Course once you have completed the quiz after viewing the course lessons and completing the short exercises.
Our Online High Conflict Co-Parenting Course is right for you if you and/or your fellow co-parent experience the following:
- Any topic is a trigger for conflict. It does not matter what you are discussing. You cannot seem to discuss any topic without it becoming a heated fight or argument. You avoid joint decisions and then get blamed for not co-parenting or making unilateral decisions.
- Potential safety concerns. One or both of you may have a history of violence, substance abuse, psychological problems, or legal issues that may potentially impact the children’s safety during visitation. You are concerned about your co-parent, or your co-parent exaggerates or maximizes the impact of your past history on your children.
- Over-reliance upon litigation. Nearly every major, sometimes minor, decision is litigated. You both cannot resolve anything on your own especially without the Court and your attorneys.
- Groundhog day co-parenting. Despite prior agreements about a certain subject, you or the other co-parent revisit the same issue over and over again, even ones that you thought were thought had been resolved.
- Chronic co-parenting conflict. Most separating parents experience some level of conflict initially which gradually reduces, yet some co-parents remain as highly conflicted as they were years following their separation and or divorce.
- Alienating conflict. One or both parents unjustifiably campaign against the other parent impacting the relationship between the children and the alienated parent.
- The New Parenting Standard. Living up to a co-parent’s standard as a parent may have been a challenge when you two were together, but now that you are apart, their expectation of you as a parent is out of this world.
Online High Conflict Divorce Certification Course
Sections and Exercises
Section 1. What is Your Current Co-Parenting Status?
Section 1 Exercise: Consider writing these questions and answers on a device or medium that you can quickly refer to the future when you begin to be triggered by your co-parent or related situation.
Imagine Life Without This Conflict. How Would Life Be?
- What type of life do you want for your children? What are your goals and dreams for them?
- Is there anything that stands in the way of your children attaining what you want for them?
- How might your children be affected by conflict with your former partner or their family?
- Identify three or more positive outcomes that would happen for your children if there was less conflict.
- Identify three or more positive outcomes that would happen for you if there was less conflict.
- Imagine three to five years from now, that your child tells a close friend what you did to help them through the separation or divorce. What would you like them to say about you and your behavior?
Section 2: Divorce High Conflict and Toxic Stress. Your Number One Obligation is to Protect Your Children
Section 2 Exercise: Identify in writing examples of parental high conflict that have been experienced by your children.
- Hearing hurtful words and insults about or toward the other parent.
- Hearing scary, negative tones or threats in a parent’s voice.
- Watching a parent being humiliated or hurt.
- Hearing a parent screaming and crying.
- Hearing a parent blaming the other parent in a harsh manner.
- Feeling forced to pick a parent over the other.
- Perceiving a parent’s withdrawal.
- Hearing whispering of an older sibling or family member about what is happening.
- Seeing signs of violence such as bruising, other injury, or one parent being fearful of the other.
Section 3: Models and Stages of Divorce
Section 3 Exercise: The aim is to move through these stages to reach psychic or psychological divorce, were you are now independent and have created a new healthy self-identity. What is your current stage based upon the model that applies to you best, and how can you begin to move to the next stage and final stage if you are not there already?
Section 4: What can individuals do to adjust to the sudden news or not so sudden news of divorce?
Section 4 Exercise: What has been your responsibility in the conflict, and what do you need to do to change it right now? Most importantly, are you willing to begin to make that change regardless of the other’s parent’s behavior and position?
Section 5: Adjusting to Conflict with a Difficult Co-Parent
Section 5 Exercise: I want you to write brief statements about the defense mechanisms you use when misinterpreting your co-parent’s behaviors or messages, and then write down your alternate thoughts, and then shorten these alternate thoughts and create a list of easy to use self talk messages or mantras that you will gently arm yourself with in preparation for resolving your own reactions during the next conflict.
Section 6: Setting Co-Parenting Boundaries
Section 6 Exercise: I would like you to run through the steps described above to create a four stepped plan to establish a boundary around a problematic behavior exhibited by your spouse that you hope to have improved by persistently changing your own behavior regarding the matter.
- Identify the Problem
- Determine Your Response
- Follow Through
Section 7: Parallel Parenting Plans
Section 7 Exercise: Determine whether you require a parallel parenting plan or a typical co-parenting plan. Additionally, regardless of which plan would best suit you and your co-parent, what aspects of a parallel parenting plan would behoove you to adopt when co-parenting with the other?
Section 8: Putting It All Together: Review of Dr. D’Arienzo’s Co-Parenting Partnership Method and Co-Parenting When All Else Fails
Section 8 Exercise: Introspection, Illustration, and Action. What is something that you will do differently the next time you are in an uncomfortable situation with your former partner? What behavior do I need to change that contributes to the ongoing conflict? What am I willing to let go of about the other person? Am I willing to now focus on my own change rather than attempting to will the other to change? It is true most of our arguments and conflicts have been about our attempts to will the other to be different?
Section 9: Managing High Conflict Personalities when Co-Parenting
Section 9 Exercise: Reflection. Do you recognize these traits in yourself or in the other person? What action will you take knowing this new information?
Section 10: Summary of the Deleterious Effects of High Conflict and Stress on Children, and a Review of the Co-Parenting Partnership Model
Section 10 Exercise: Reflection. What has stood out in our course? What are you going to change about you and your co-parenting relationship today for the benefit of your child(ren)?